No More Mommy Martyr.

Listen. I’ll be straight with you. Motherhood is hard. Motherhood is tough. And you have to be a tough mother to get through some of the days. I get it. You never sleep. You work hard. You worry. And it’s not appreciated. You feel like all you are is the bearer of children and chicken nuggets. And then the bills come in. And keep coming. And pile up.

It’s a never ending cycle.

But it can end. And it ends with the mommy martyr routine.
Newsflash: you are human. Shocking to many people, I know, but moms are human. So you’re allowed to feel your feelings. You’re allowed to feel bad, mad, and sad.

But what you are not allowed to do is let that drag you down so far that you can’t take care of your kids. And by take care of your kids I mean accepting that things may not be Pinterest perfect. Sometimes good enough is just gonna have to be good enough.
What isn’t good enough is stressing yourself over things you can’t control. You can’t control your situations in some cases. But you can control how you react to them.

The biggest things to remember are that you’re trying the best you can and that your kids love you. They may not say it as they roll their eyes when you ask for help with chores. But they do. They will look back at these times and know that you were the best mom for them in that moment. And that’s something to be grateful for.

So, hug your kids. Smell their hair. And be present and grateful for that moment. That’s the secret. Thats the key. That’s the magic. In that moment you are living as if. You are experiencing what it would be like if. And that’s the real deal right there.
And don’t forget that bathrooms have locks and no one can hear you unwrap a chocolate bar if you run the shower.

You are good enough. And if you need more proof, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVJrWuA9HPE